5) Believe that you can
According to Dr. Jennice Vilhauer, most people experience shyness at some point in their lives one way or another. For some it may happen while meeting someone new, going in to a new group or simply being exposed to an unfamiliar environment. It takes a lot of time and a lot of will power to reach a zero shyness stage, but the first step is to inherently believe that you can in fact overcome it. The fact that you are reading this article means that you do in fact believe in your ability to overcome shyness.
4) plan for it to go well
Shyness is associated with a mind that has a strong tendency to over-estimate negative scrutiny. People tend fear that they will be evaluated in a very negative way. Resultantly, they focus on how not to do wrong. Instead, a shy mind should divert its focus on how to do it right. Reduce anxiety by crafting up topics you could discuss while in conversation, for example, bringing up something about the current events. Finally, give yourself an exit strategy as a back up, but do not hope to use it. In other words, create a step by step process of how you are going to see the event through successfully.
3) be curious about others
As simple as it gets. Just simply take the focus off yourself and focus on your surrounding crowd. Observe individuals, why did they attract your attention? What kind of work do they do? Are they singly or in a relationship? By giving other people a chance to talk, you would get the attention off yourself and relieve yourself of the anxiety, casually learning about your company in the process.
2) give yourself a role
Most shy people are exceptional professionals, this is because they feel confident in their work environments. They have a defined role and they know how to perform within that role. Such people often complain that they feel powerless when they are put out of that in a role in a social setting. A way to cure this is by assigning yourself a social role, such as being the one that makes the next person feel welcome.
1) Soften your inner dialogue
Shy people are often highly critical of themselves and their inner dialogue can be very harsh and include things they would never say to other people. Your inner critic can cause a lot of emotional damage, robbing you of peace of mind and self-esteem. The best way to defeat the critic is to have an even stronger ally on your side—an inner voice that acts as your own best friend. Start noticing the good things about yourself and learn to us them to "talk back" to your inner critic. When the critic starts to blame you for being fearful, remember that there is not a single person who enjoys rejection, yet somehow we all manage to survive it. When your inner critic starts to tell you that no one will ever like you, remind yourself that you liking you is what matters most. By learning to talk to yourself in a kinder gentler way, social situations won’t hold as much power to hurt you because you won’t be punishing yourself.